SEX, THE 'DIRTINESS' OF LIFE







You know, I truly wonder what they teach people in schools nowadays.

This entire issue started with the thread at PDA*, 'Is Sex important in a relationship?' I wasn't surprised with the poll, but I was more shocked with some of the opinions of people on PDA.

Some people's outlook on sex is as if it's a very dirty act and that doing it will ruin a relationship forever.

Is THIS what they're teaching at schools??? So that young people won't have sex, they teach them that it's dirty to the point where they believe that if a couple does have sex, they will ruin the relationship???

I hope the fuck not. I honestly hope not.

When I was still in High School, we were taught about sex, but we weren't taught like it was the most degrading act of existance or that it was dirty. Sex is the most intimate way to express your feelings toward your partner. There's nothing wrong with it either, it's just a different way people express their emotions to others. Actions tend to speak louder than words on this issue.

Now, I'll say sex isn't the ONLY thing in a relationship. If you truly care about your partner, then what's wrong with showing them how you care about them?? There are other ways, but giving your partner flowers and occasionally kissing and hugging them only really goes so far. They know you still care, but sometimes, even that isn't enough and you desperately want to show them how you feel.

Society has degraded sex in the past generation more so than ever. People are having sex left and right to the point that it's lost most of it's meaning. That sex is just a 'passing pleasure'. But that's to some people. To others, it's a deep expression of love.

Now, I shall go into the Yami link to this little rantage. Flash back to a conversation that I had with someone a few days ago and something I discussed with my sister a bit back. Mainly, about Tsuzuki and Hisoka.

Now, this person told me that if they saw Tsuzuki and Hisoka having sex with each other, that "it would ruin the relationship they have^. Not necessarily true. When I asked about her views on sex, she gave me basically the idea that society has about sex nowadays, that's it's just 'pleasure' and not 'love'.

Having sex does NOT ruin a relationship all the time. Sometimes, the relationship goes to a deeper level than what we could EVER think. Sometimes, it honestly does ruin a relationship, especially if both partners aren't close to each other in the first place.

Now the case with Tsuzuki and Hisoka. To me, Tsuzuki and Hisoka aren't 'having sex', but 'making love'. Yes, I'm an old hard romantic. :P But seriously, if you look at their relationship, they are rather close to each other. I don't think that if they got into a physical relationship and then a sexual one that it would destroy their partnership, but bring them even closer together. Sure, they would have some issues to deal with, but that's the beauty of their relationship. Both just NEED each other and I could easily see them expressing how important the other is to them by 'making love' to them.

What disturbed me though mainly was what my sister told me. She told me that some people can see Muraki/Hisoka having sex, but not Tsuzuki/Hisoka. Um... So it's okay for Muraki and Hisoka to have sex because it's rape, but it's NOT okay for Tsuzuki and Hisoka to make love to each other???? O_o????? Notice my confusion...

Some people used this arguement with the entire Tatsumi/Tsuzuki and Tsuzuki/Hisoka issue. They thought that Tsuzuki/Hisoka having sex would kill their relationship because their relationship was too deep, yet, it was perfectly fine for Tatsumi/Tsuzuki to have sex. I was actually quite upset over this, not because I'm a Tsuzuki/Hisoka fan at heart, but because it implies that Tatsumi/Tsuzuki aren't that close to begin with and them having sex is okay because it's not something that's really lasting. It demeans the relationship of Tatsumi/Tsuzuki and if people think that way, I can see Tatsumi and Tsuzuki having sex and later on, regretting it because they realize that their relationship isn't as 'true' as they thought it was. The point of having sex is to express how deeply you care for your partner and if you don't care for your partner on a deep level, how do you expect them to enjoy sex all together??? Then it just becomes for pleasure and not for love.

Sex is NOT rape either. Rape is sexual assault, don't get those two mixed up. ~_~;;;;;; Sex is where BOTH parties are willing, rape is a crime, it's called an assault crime because one party is not willing. With sex, it can be about love and/or pleasure with BOTH parties, with rape, it's just pleasure for one party, it's about dominating over your victim, it's called a CRIME for a reason!

Sex is not a dirty act. The people who have sex for the wrong reasons make the act seem less than it does. The people who have sex for love are rare, but it's one of the best experiences they have.

Conclusion

If Tsuzuki and Hisoka decided to get into a sexual relationship, to me, it would only bring them closer because they LOVE each other. That's the key in a relationship like theirs. They're not 'just having sex', but 'making love' to each other. They are expressing their intimate feelings on a different level and it's FAR from dirty for people expressing their love for each other in a intimate act. And judging from their personalities, they would only do this when they thought they were ready and when they wanted the other to know how deeply they cared.


* PDA = Planet DarkAges



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