How To Survive in a Fandom


(01) Never, ever in any way reveal details about your personal life. Have parents? Brothers, sisters? Not anymore. Never mention family unless in passing. Do not mention school, significant others, work, or anything remotely personally related. This makes you automatically vulnerable and a victim for attack. In short, it makes you Human. In Fandom, you cannot be Human.

(02) Do not in any form ever show feeling at all. Ever. You are a rock. Never have a bad day. Never be upset about anything. Your dog died? Suck it up or don't come online. Feelings aren't welcome in Fandom. Should you show any feeling at all, you will be labeled whiny and depressed.

Do. Not. Show. Feeling.

(03) Never give any details about your true personality. Post nothing on your blog, LiveJournal, etc. that may in some way shape or form make you seem like an actual Human Being. Post nothing on your journal but the occasional catch of humorous lines or something about your anime/manga/series/etc. of choice. Remember, you are not Human.

(04) Never in any shape or form write an essay about your fandom. Never write any detailed thoughts on a particular topic.

(05) You have no opinion.

(06) Write. Do not draw attention to yourself. Do not create a fic log. Do not announce when you have posted something to FanFiction.net. For the sake of God above, do not ever post something you have written to a community or mailing list. Stay in the background. Do not be noticed. People must like you, and then you must be forgettable as that 'one writer who wrote a good story.'

(07) Reached more than 30 or so reviews? Stop what you're doing now. You cannot possibly have more than the average 10 reviews. You have automatically become a greater known commodity. Back out now.

(08) Never, ever achieve the status of a BNF. You will discover enemies where you did not know you had enemies. You may write like a God, but once you have more than 100 reviews and people see this, they will tear you to sheds and find every single thing wrong with your stories as possible. You will never have any greater company than the small-minded fan girls that dedicate altars in your name and squeal madly whenever they are an inch within your presence. Get used to having others resent you.

But remember, you have no feeling.

(09) For the Love of God, do not make a web page, especially in a relatively small fandom that has very few fan pages or good sources for fan works aside from FanFiction.net. You have become automatic victims. Shoot yourself in the head and escape now.

(10) Speak to no one. Be there, but be unreachable. Have an obscure screen name. Use only MSN Messenger. Be obscure. When in a chat room, speak briefly, and speak without breaking any of the above rules. When another person brings up anything remotely personal, express condolesences, and move on. Move on fast; you could be caught easily in the trap of caring.

(11) Never ever engage in a flame war. Never comment on the subject. Do not leave subtle messages on your own blog or LiveJournal. Do not speak of it to anyone. Watch the proceedings as you so choose, but say nothing. Say nothing when your friends are the ones being treated terribly. Say nothing when someone is being a complete pain in the ass. Say nothing, feel nothing, have no opinion.

(12) Restraint. Practice gut-wrenching restraint. Do not, however tempted you may be, ever respond to a wanking thread. No matter how civil and polite you are, your words will be twisted around and you will dig yourself in a hole from which you cannot return.

(13) Read all the rules? Have you become an obsure writer with a bare minimum of reviews, a fading name in the fandom, a passing wind in a wild and crazy fandom?

Good. Throw out all the rules. None of them work.

Now relax. Write what you want to write. Be pleased with what you do and you can achieve great things. Reviews mean nothing. Quantity is nothing compared to quality. Someone has a problem with you? That's life. No one will always like you. Like yourself, find comfort in your friends, and you'll do fine.

Remember, it's only fan work. Fandom is not defined by single groups of people. Fandom is defined by the amount of fan work. Not the discussion, not the wank, not the flames. Flame wars will come and go as long as we have this fandom creature stalking us, but good writing and great friends will be the only constant through it all. Find what matters more to you. The comfort of friends and writing what you want, being happy with what you do, or being chained down by the fandom beast.

Always keep in mind what attracted you to your fandom of choice to begin with. Always remember what made you love it to begin with, what inspired you to write for it, or to find others with similar interests as yours. Just relax. Have fun.

It's only the fandom beast, after all.


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The author of this piece wishes to remain anonymous
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